He began with criticism, went on to name-calling and moved on to physical violence and (probably) murder. “The Loser,” Carver notes, “has very shallow emotions and connections with others.
It’s very important to get away from a Loser at the slightest hint of violence, including verbal aggression, since abuse usually increases in frequency and severity over time. One of the things that might attract you to the Loser is how quickly he or she says ‘I Love You’ or wants to marry or commit to you.
A strong and happy relationship relies on you both being able to retain friendships and living a little outside of each other’s worlds. Does not show up at parties with your friends’ party and doesn’t even call to say he won’t be there. He focuses on pleasing his desires and doesn’t ask what you like. He gets really angry when you are not in the mood and even tries to force you into it. He does not like your hobbies and how good you are at them. He tells you all this while at your couch playing video games. He likes to lie around all day then go out with his friends till late. You have to make him apologize to people when he drives recklessly on the road.