It has been suggested that boys are driven more by lust than by love and are more interested in conquest than commitment. What many boys are looking for is not just sexual satisfaction but a degree of intimacy that parents – even the most loving and devoted of parents – cannot give them.
A boy needs to love and be loved, not just within the home, where affection is unconditional, but outside the home, in the beguiling world where acceptance is conditional – on looks, character, values and a host of other factors that lead us to make judgements about one another.
These include, but are not limited to, sex being: pleasurable, normal, biologically important and instinctive.
Having got that out of the way, it’s time to consider the sorts of things a parent (both parents, preferably) can chat about with their son on the topic of sex.
What's your opinion on teens getting involved in social networking and online chat rooms?
I've read some of the teen conversations on the sites my daughter wants to visit, and they seem relatively harmless. While the Internet can be a wonderful educational and communication tool, it can also be a dangerous place for unsuspecting young teens.
Paramedics arrived at the house within three minutes. “My husband and I, we were in complete shock,” Sellers said. Our ears were ringing, and we couldn't see real well, and we couldn't talk.
Her family only learned about her dark secrets after she hanged herself last year, mom Jennifer Sellers told I knew the part of her that she wanted me to know,” Sellers said.
“But as a parent, it never occurred to me there might be more.” Sydney’s December suicide shocked the Pell City family. Sydney was a happy, free-spirited student with a small group of close girlfriends and a “straight-as-an-arrow” boyfriend. The family went to church together filled in the morning — Sydney’s first mass serving as an altar girl — and the 14-year-old spent the afternoon with her boyfriend to celebrate his birthday while the Sellers ran family errands.
If a parent is not going to speak openly with their son about sex, a son will cobble together his own understanding from sources that may not be appropriate.
First, there are a few basic truths to put on the table when talking to a son about sex.