If it’s going to make us happy or even that our needs and wants aren’t being met.
All we’re focusing on is that they don’t want us and we should be focusing on why we want them, because first and foremost a healthy relationship must have two people that actually want to be in it.
With new experiences, new knowledge, and natural human maturing over the lifespan, the new life conditions that result cause us to look at ourselves and the world differently, and we begin to value things in a different way.
You see, the question of what you rely on to make you feel good about yourself tells you a lot about how you prioritize the importance of how others see you versus how you see yourself.
We’re talking, of course, about your source of validation: whether you rely on validation from others or whether you rely on internal validation.
We often don’t recognize that the reason someone isn’t interested in us may have absolutely nothing to do with us at all.
We tend to internalize the rejection that it must be because we’ve been seen, evaluated and judged, as not good enough and that they are no longer interested.