If our heart is not there — if our soul is not already safe through faith, if our mind is distracted and focused on other, lesser things, if our best strength is being spent on the things of this world — jobs, sports, shopping, entertainment, relationships, and on God — we simply will not date well. Listen to Jesus, and “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” Seek him first (Matthew ), and dating will be added according to his perfect plan and timing. It’s not the first rule, but I have found that it is a “golden rule” that most often makes the difference between healthy and unhealthy Christian dating relationships.But after embracing and applying the first and greatest commandment, I have found that the . If you’re not a Christian — if you haven’t dealt with God before trying to date — you don’t have a chance of having a truly healthy Christian relationship with someone else. As cliché as it sounds, being yourself is probably best first date advice. So, how do you deal with the anxiety that inevitably comes with first-date territory?Dates are supposed to be enjoyable, not uncomfortable.You should also be polite to the other people you encounter on your date, including servers.Non-Christians have a different perspective on dating.You see the magazines, TV shows, and movies that tell you how you’re young, and you should date a lot of people before you get married.
After all, you'll make a better first impression if you are concerned about making the other person comfortable, which is what dating etiquette is all about.
You will not truly love anyone else if you do not love God first and most.
And no one will truly love you if they do not love God more than they love you.
It’ll only look strange if you tell them all that you’re already seated and waiting to order. If your date asks what you’d like to eat, drink, or share for dessert, don’t say “I don’t care, what do you want? Obviously, you want to look your best, but a first date isn’t the time to take those new stilettos out for a road test, or wear that dress that’s a little tight. Because first dates are anxiety-filled enough and being uncomfortable in your clothes only makes it worse.
Plus, won’t it suck to not be able to walk a few blocks on a nice night because your heels are too high? There’s not much to say here without sounding like a preachy parent, but keep this in mind: Having to be carried home by someone you barely know isn’t fun (nor is slurring your words or crying at the dinner table).