When hearing the term, many have images of their grandparents being chaperoned by their parents with their special someone.
In those days, courting was about getting to know your potential partner as much as possible in a safe, pure environment.
What Zhao found was, if not scientifically rigorous, then romantically revealing.
First, she compared some of the most commonly-used terms in the couple's text messages—"love," "ok," "dinner," and, yes, "hey"—looking at their distribution in year one versus year six.
When two people live together, have sex, make their incomes and assets available to each other and talk about children or even have children, are they dating or are they married?
A lot of lines have been crossed in the past decades as far as what couples can do when they are dating and what they can do when they are married. Normally, dating, or going out, is a series of activities done by two people who are trying to find out as much as possible about each other.
Often, these courtships led to successful marriages that lasted lifelong.
What didn't much change in frequency were references to two things that are constant no matter your relationship status: "home" and "dinner." For the couple, those terms simply appeared in different contexts in year six than they had in year one.The times when two people could only hold hands and kiss before marriage are long gone, and many brides are carrying their baby down the aisle and breastfeeding in their wedding dresses whenever they get a change throughout the ceremony. They are supposed to be fun and enjoyable and shed some light on each of their personalities and how well they match. They imply doing something or simply hanging out, talking and spending time in whatever way the two people see fit.If both partners approve, a date can end in sexual intercourse.As Zhao notes, the relative distribution of those terms loosely tracks the comfort that set in as the pair shifted their interactions from on-phone to in-person. ' to 'ok, sounds good,'" she writes in a blog post explaining the project."We stopped saying each other’s names in our text messages.