He seems content to keep both of them around for as long as they’ll tolerate the arrangement. ”Dating, she realizes, is how she has learned to look for happiness.And the work of dating—an unending self-optimization ritual, a power struggle with stacked odds—has clouded her own desires.Although the opinion of a potential bride or groom might be solicited on the issue, the final decision on marriage belongs with the head of the household.As in many parts of the Islamic world, endogamy (the practice of marrying someone from within one’s own kin group) is common, the preferred marriage being with a paternal first cousin of the opposite gender.play a secondary role in running the household and raising the children and, in rural areas, helping to work the family farm.
The desired outcomes of dating, as well as its customs, change by demographic and era. Two sharp blows that had left her alone in her late 50s. His cancer took him swiftly, before she had time to process what was happening. It had been over two years since the death of her husband of 20 years; four, since she had lost her mother.Men may have as many as four wives at the same time, though in practice it is rare for a man to take more than one wife. Families are very close and are the focus of the individual’s primary devotion; one’s second allegiance is to the tribe, an extended family unit that ordinarily traces its ties to a common eponymous ancestor.In rural Yemen, state authority is weak, and disputes between tribes are frequently solved through violence.