Did you know that when you enter alcohol or drug rehab, there is a good chance that you will be asked to agree to a non-fraternization policy?This means that you agree to stay out of relationships with other clients.In that situation, the site can be a resource for support and friendship.The site encourages its members to: “Keep your recovery first, in order to make it last!I do not subscribe to any recovery programs and I feel comfortable (most of the time) around alcohol. I have recently found that I have problems meeting people my age (particularly for romantic relations) because I am (as my mother says) a non-active alcoholic.I have found that time and time again I will be having a great discussion with someone and my sobriety will come up, and it pretty much ends all relations.Instead, the site will suggest other users who are in a similar recovery program but in an adjacent city or town.
The early stages of recovery are spent figuring out who you are without drugs and alcohol, rebuilding your own sense of self-worth and self-esteem, and re-learning how to cope with stressors of everyday life.
AA has done such a good job of selling alcoholism as an uncontrollable disease, maybe people believe that you can just slip off (like Lee Remick in Days of Wine and Roses) into oblivion.
I commend you for not dating primarily fellow recovering alcoholics. Because then your life would be totally circumscribed by alcohol, its avoidance, the issue of alcoholism, etc. And, given that you don’t belong to any movement for recovery, it seems you don’t want to devote your life to group meetings and fellow alcoholics.
If you do meet someone special within the first year of recovery, taking it slowly and being honest that your sobriety is the most important factor in your life is crucial.
Dating in recovery can be challenging for many reasons.