We determined that the median engagement age in the United States is 27.2 years for women, and 28.7 years for men -- a 1.5 year difference.
Furthermore, the median amount of time a couple dates before the proposal is 3.3 years.
I wonder if this explains why the Spanish word esposas means both “wives” and “handcuffs”?
But, of course, pointing out that not rushing into a pre-mature commitment is very difficult when we’re in love doesn’t really address the question at hand—that is, how long is it until the cocaine-rush of initial infatuation wears off and you can make a good decision?
Here's the thing—you can know a person for years before you get engaged, be happily married for years after that, and then something bad can happen.Some marital experts would argue that two years is a good amount of time to wait.If you are looking for a general rule of thumb, then two years is probably a good length of time for most people, but I don’t personally favor any hard-and-fast rule about how long a courtship should be.But if you think about it you'll have to agree that it's worth spending a few months in pre-engagement counseling to make sure that your relationship is really marriage material.It's much easier and a lot less expensive than going through a divorce at some point later in life. Greg Smalley talks about how to know if the person you're dating is the right one to marry.