It has taken years for us to come to grips with the fact my wife has BP.
Fortunately, my wife is really good about taking her meds and seeking therapy.
” Much as I hate to say it, my own experience leads me to say YES! They are afraid of the consequences of telling the truth. They feel compelled to cast themselves in a more favorable light. It is a “white lie” to make someone else feel better and has no malice in it. They are manipulative sociopaths or narcissists and enjoy the power that comes from deliberately deceiving and making fools out of other people. They are politicians or secret agents or parents or are in some other situation where it appears to them that the ends justify the means. The person with bipolar disorder may be experiencing a powerful sense of superiority and entitlement, and/or an unshakable conviction they are above the rules and/or an aching feeling of being misunderstood and under-appreciated – that is, the perfect storm!
There are times when people with BP simply cannot exercise good judgment. People with BP WILL do things that affect their families. Although its really impossible to separate the illness driven behaviors from their personality, spouses and other family members need to understand that BPD changes the way people, think, feel and act. Not to do so is unfair because it holds people to unrealistic standards and disappointment becomes the inevitable outcome.
Sadly, too few people yet realize bipolar cheating is one of the most typical bipolar symptoms of all.
My own bipolar infidelity destroyed my relationship, my finances, my self-respect, my happiness, my peace of mind, and my entire sense of self, so I hope there will be readers who can benefit from my mistakes.
This is a page I have wanted to write for a long time because it is SUCH an important topic, and because it is the issue I get the most questions and requests about.
However, it is a difficult subject for me personally because this was the main way my bipolar symptoms became obvious, and my most serious manic episode manifested.