If you knew the exact date in the future when you’ll meet your match, you’d probably feel pretty OK about your life right now. But since neither of us knows that, let’s see what else we can do… Step one – change your thoughts: do a reality check. That will make you feel less hopeless and helpless. The more you feel you are in control of your life – the happier you feel, the better you look, the more you smile, the more fun you have. As you do that, you’ll start attracting a much more interesting bunch of people in your life. People get drawn to your energy, liveliness, your confidence, your spark.What grounds you have to believe you will stay single? If you get what you want in other areas of life, you will feel more confident you can do it in your love life as well. If you are unhappy in your job – look for one that will make you feel better. When you feel you are in the right place, and you believe love can happen for you: the right partner will come, without a doubt.I felt so lost when all this started, but after working through the e-course and interacting on the forum I feel like there is actually a purpose in all this. I might still get little blips of anxiety and I can only assume that there will continue to be ups and downs on this journey, but what I have learned is that it's not my fiancé. It's an internal struggle, an inner part of myself that needs attention.I would encourage every single bride and groom to work through the e-course.Here you’ll read about women and men who were struggling with your EXACT issues, and you’ll be privy to the wisdom of those who made it through and are offering their advice to those in the eye of the anxiety storm.“The e-course was a gift and an answer to a prayer.
If you’re suffering from engagement or newlywed anxiety, this is the best course of action you can take. It’s an instant download of comfort, inspiration, and practical tools for managing your anxiety and realizing your clarity and love.Unfortunately, if it’s not mutual, whatever you have in mind for the relationship isn’t going to happen.The harder you work at what is already on an imbalanced and unhealthy footing is the mutual it becomes, especially as what you feel and do becomes distorted.And if you could step away from the fear, you would know, deep down – it’s very unlikely you’ll stay alone for the next 10 or 60 years of your life. I know it’s hard to listen to the voice of reason when emotions are shouting louder. I can’t tell you when you’ll meet your next long-term partner – but I can give you a few tips to manage that fear better. Most likely A LOT happened in your life in 2 years, let alone 10. Another reality check: if you see a lot of people around you settling down, that doesn’t mean everyone but you is hooking up, you are just noticing those people more.I do believe it’s the anxiety of not knowing “how long” that creates most of the singleness-misery, not the actual wait itself. Jobs, schools, places, friends, partners – all change. So if all those things happened then, why wouldn’t they happen in the next 10 years of your life? Try looking for single people instead – in real life, in media, anywhere you can spot them. Do that for at least few weeks, or until you have enough evidence that the world is not comprised only of couples. Yes, people in couples are not necessarily happier than you either. for another post.) Step two – change your life: put the rest of your life under control, as much as you can. And you’re not putting your life on hold while he or she arrives.